Your state of wellness matters to me too. It's the reason I moved beyond fitness instructor to whole-self, lifestyle coach/consultant and educator decades ago.
We teach best what we must learn most, has long been a teaching I trust and it's rung true for me over the years.
My mission is to empower and enable you to cultivate your own optimal state of vibrant health and inner harmony. Some of my clients have done wonderfully with this while others have had, are having, a much more rocky journey. We all navigate the road to wellness in our own ways.
Typically their challenges relate to the conversations they have in their head, programmed by years of imprinted beliefs and resulting patterns of behavior indoctrinated by society, family, friends, work, religions, culture... These various beliefs and the accompanying inner dialogue and resulting habits are often fueled by the story they tell themselves. They go something like:
"it runs in the family", or whatever it may be. We are all subject to this challenge in varying degrees.
Our route to being better, to doing better, at anything, begins in our head. The thoughts we think attract the experiences we live. Learning to grasp the power of our thoughts and grab hold of them, consciously choosing them, begets great power for us.
With whatever objective - goal, you are currently working on, stop right now and access the conversation in your head you are having on this. Assess how supporting or sabotaging it is.
Are the thoughts in your head those of encouragement and inspiration that you'd give a loved one? Are they of doubt and ridicule?
If that conversation if your head is anything but supportive, this is where you begin your quest for your goal. Setting the foundation for success with any endeavor means advance prep. It requires planning, a step by step map with check-in points along the way. Curve-balls and obstacles may throw off timelines so contingency plans may be needed and adjustments made.
Consider the proverbial New Years Resolution dogma. Without a plan and strategies to overcome the quit culture, resolutions are anything but resolute.
Thinking about sharing my views for this blog post, this article shows up in my feed:
A Path to Well-Being - Train the voice in your head to be nicer
Author Sandy Cohen writes of the many voices in our head and of how to turn the inner critic into an inner friend. We share an aligned take on the need to reign in any crazy talk we have going on.
Now I must comment on the remarkable orchestration of the universe and law of attraction.
I'd never read anything on Shondaland before. My views on self-talk and the essential need to rewire any not serving us well were cultivated by various teachers and spiritual leaders over the span of several decades and they continue. That said, it is Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements that come to mind as I'm writing this post.
Sandy's article is a provocative reminder to mind your mind and she offers some great ways to tame your inner voice. Take a few minutes to read it and then take some time to digest her words.
We are all works in progress and to progress, it takes daily consciousness work in my view.
Awareness of our thinking and self talk is a great place to start. Pair this with the desire to be the best we can be, re-frame all negative self talk and we are on track. Beyond matters of the heart, matters of the mind just may matter most. What do you think?
I'd love to hear your take on this and if you have strategies that helped you overcome your own inner critic, please share them. We are all students and teachers in my view and ongoing learning is a blessing.
Teri Gentes
A professional speaker and practitioner in whole-self lifestyle wellness and natural nutrition with close to 40 years’ experience, Teri blends up-to-date research, with passion and practical approaches that motivate and enable easy-to-implement life-enhancing habits. She walks her talk and aims to empower by example. Contact her here.